Saturday, September 10, 2011

A love letter

Dear Harper,
You are four months old today and every single day with you is a gift. As I look into those big beautiful eyes, I can't help but think how lucky I am to be your Daddy. Before you were born, I thought I knew what life was about but in four months you've completely changed that for me. Your smile is infectious, your laugh melts my heart, and when you look at me I know you can see how proud of you I am.

A lot of times, letters in baby books from parents are apologies for future events. Parents apologize for not having enough money, or for the broken family the child will endure, or various other things. For you, my sweet baby I don't want to apologize because it is my intention that you will never need to hear those apologies. I vow to do my very best and ensure that you have everything you need out of this life, but that you also have a deep appreciation for those things and compassion for those who do not. What I want most is for you to feel empowered to be whatever you want in this life and an appreciation for everyone else. I've learned some tough lessons in my life, but they have made me a stronger person. When the going gets tough, I want you to know you can count on me. As sure as there will be bumps in the road, mistakes we both will make, my love and support for you will never waver. I will always be your rock, and the soft place to land when the going gets rough.

You are being brought into this world at a strange time. Tomorrow marks the ten year anniversary of one of the greatest trajedies our country ever experienced with the attacks of 9/11/01. We are still at war ten years later, our economy is suffering, and it seems that everything is very shaky. I want to be the first to tell you that despite all of those circumstances, you have a rock solid foundation underneath you. I've worked tirelessly to make sure that no matter what is going on outside of these four walls of your house, that you know that you will never have anything to worry about. So many times, people get so caught up with what's happening around them that they lose their footing on control of their own life. My dear, I want you to know that when you can put blinders on to the negativity and focus on your mission anything and everything is possible. Harper, you are capable of doing this. When someone ever tells you that you can't do something, prove them wrong by doing it. Don't do it to spite them, but to prove to yourself that you are capable. Remember you are a Fernandez and you can do anything you set your mind to.

While most people are good, there are some that aren't. Inevitably you will be mistreated, made to feel less than, or underappreciated. A lover will break your heart, a friend will turn their back, a family member will make a nasty remark. The more that you can let this roll off your back and keep moving forward, the faster you will recover. I wish I could save you the heartache, but I can't so my only other advice is revenge will get you nowhere, forgiveness is key, and always remember that what goes around comes around tenfold.

You are already magnificent and I can't wait to watch you grow up. You are my everything and complete my life. I love you more than words could ever convey.